I have heard discussions of this topic on fetlife, and thought i would expound here instead of on a forum post, so here goes.
Does
the slave retain any or all power when they surrender it of their own
free will? Short answer: no. Long answer: no with caveats. The simple
explanation is that if you keep a sub/slave happy, they will strive to
make you happy. A slave who isnt valued as a person or whose opinions
truly dont matter to the dom will likely become listless over time, and
their lack of effort will cause strife that may lead to a split.
I,
for example, am not a physical sadist. I have heard doms that say
because of this that I am not a real dom, but I'll happily tell those
where to stick it. My girls all give me the credit for my position, and
that is what matters. I know what I am- I operate on the mental plane
(it is so much more powerful). Instead of beating a slave into
submission, I prefer to herd them into giving it up willingly. I think
all slaves crave this being done, at least to some extent.
One of
my girls, a bona fide pain slut, has experienced this. She was in a tough spot in her
relationship where her Master was physical.
So why would a pain slut become dissatisfied with this arrangement? its
because she craved the mental arts, which she never fully got in that
relationship until I began a reeducation.
An equally valid question is this: I do not enjoy
the physical, but I have two pain sluts that couldnt be happier...why?
One of these pain sluts has been with me for 10 years and there is no
dissatisfaction between us.
Why?
The answer is mental. Even with
the newer pain slut, I have such a tight grip on their minds that they
couldn't imagine not being with me, at least in the here and now. This is why I believe that mental
arts are so effective.
Do they, or my third, a rope slut, have
power? No. They will bend to my will whatever the cost. However, comma,
if I ignored their wishes altogether they may become dissatisfied. So,
despite my indifference to the physical, I indulge their physical
masochism from time. This brings me back to the main thesis.
The
slaves have no power to get me to do this, in my view. I indulge the
physical when I feel like it, not when they do. But by indulging them on
occasion, they don't have to completely give up that desire for a good
beating totally, and they get good value in exchange for total physical
fulfillment- total mental domination and manipulation, and there is no
doubt that I care for each of them and provide them protection from
whatever comes, physical, mental, or emotional.
In the vanilla
world, I also see my slaves as people in their own right. When a
decision needs to be made, my decision is final- the difference is that I
get the slaves' opinions on the subject. I may decide against them, but
the fact that I take their view into account gives them a sense of
really being important to me, and each of them is.
You see, it's
not that they have power, but that I step out of my comfort zone
sometimes to indulge them, thereby keeping them dedicated.Since I care for my girls,
controlling them mentally, giving them physical pain once in a while,
listening to them, and being the steady, reliable presence for them,
they are so happy that they will go far out of their way to please me.
This is the secret to a good M/s dynamic. Even a pain slut needs the
full package of domination and to feel that she is valued as a person to
be happy, my newest is proof of this.
If you dont earn the title
Master from the slave, of their own free will, you are not a Master. And
you would be surprised how little pain it can take to physically break a
pain slut. Perhaps I will expand on this idea later in its own topic.
Reposted from my old blog, circa Aug 2011
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